I’m trying to come to grips with some stuff, and could use your help.

Do I come across as arrogant to you? In person or here?

I’m really asking this to learn about myself.

See, I don’t think I am arrogant, but I know I feel somewhat aloof at times, especially when I’m in crowds; it’s kind of a defense mechanism that I think is getting stronger as I get older. I can see where this might result in behavior that comes across as arrogant.

But I’m unsure of other things I may or may not be doing, and I would like to hear about them. Seriously, and not defensively.

I’m trying to be a better person when it comes to ensuring that my words match my deeds and vice versa. I would appreciate your help.

Thanks. And don’t be shy, ok?